Who’s Your Daddy?

She wondered, “Why?”

She wondered why she felt all alone, even as she was part of a healthy church body and had a great family.

She wondered why, after years of counseling, she still didn’t feel like she fit in.  Why she felt “less than”, “spoiled” and “rotten”.

One day she was studying about attachment theory.  The idea that a child’s security is founded in how well they attached, and how securely they are attached to their momma or daddy.  She read about a child’s insecure attachment and how the child felt weak and alone when momma was out of sight because – well, the child never knew for sure that momma was right around the corner.

And out of the blue – she knew it.  She had an insecure attachment with her heavenly Father.  As faithful as He had been, she feared that He would not be there the next time around.  The He was somehow disappointed in her even though she did her best.  In Genesis 1 we are told that God created Man & Woman and found them to be very good.  And later we are told that God came to the garden and walked with Adam & Eve.  Can you imagine the conversation?  Can you imagine God saying to Eve, “You are my creation and I am so glad that I placed you on the earth!”  Can you imagine how that might have felt?

Ephesians 2:10 says:

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. (ESV)

Since we are his workmanship, it is not unreasonable for us to imagine Him saying to us, “Carolyn (or Holley or Beth or Kathy), you are my creation and I am so glad that I placed you on the earth!”  Take some time to meditate on that – to feel it.  Be quiet as Your Father speaks love and blessing into your heart and become secure in your relationship with Him.


The Way of Escape

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.  1 Cor 10:13 (ESV)

Sometimes the biggest temptations we come up against are those in our own minds.  The temptation to fall into shame and to feel insecure can leave me in a frantic spot.  I imagine things that never happen, in the worst way they could happen.  I imagine slights by friends that are not there.  I end up grumpy and out of sorts as my thoughts spiral out of control.

But this verse, it says that God will always provide a way of escape.  But how can we escape our own minds and imaginations?  I believe the answer is in the next verse.

Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry.  1 Cor 10:14 (ESV)

We practice idolatry when we worship something as God.  Many things can be idols in our lives – money, homes, children – you name it.  But what I have found in my own life is that the scariest idol that I worship is, simply, myself.  I worry about how things affect me.  What someone thinks about me.  I replay things I did years ago in my mind and those feelings of shame.  Literally – I think about ME.  Can you relate?

What if, instead of falling into the temptation of thinking about ME, retrained myself to think about GOD.  I mean, really THINK about GOD.

Try this:  Like any muscle, our brain must be trained to do the things we want it to do.  And like a good athlete or musician, we need to practice on normal days, not game days or recital days.  So, try this with me:   for 7 days, set aside five minutes to sit quietly and ponder the names of God.  Here are a few to get you started:

  • Lord
  • Provider
  • Father
  • Son
  • Holy Spirit
  • Healer
  • Shepherd
  • Prince of Peace
  • Wonderful Counselor
  • Almighty
  • God with Us

What other names did you come up with?  Please comment and let me know!

All the way home,